Infidelity
- Mar 11, 2017
- 2 min read
Infidelity can be a powerful thing. It can cause damage to significant others for years.
I was in a series of relationships that ended due to infidelity. The first one that I will discuss was around 14 years ago. He was a bit rough around the edges. We met in college. He treated me so well, and I learned about myself with him. He told me he loved me after the first date(we knew each other for 3 years prior). He said that he wanted to marry me.
He met his partner in affair about a year into my relationship with him. He was infatuated with this woman, and she did everything for him t hat I could not. I found out about her through his emails. He accidentally forwarded a letter from her to me. He truly loved this woman. I had to let him go. Best decision that I could have ever made. He married her and they have beautiful children.
The next guy, he was an angel. He was a different race than me. I wanted to marry him. He wanted me badly, and he told me everyday. But I saw that he was happy in his current state. I saw so much more for him. He would eventually meet a great girl and cheat on me. They got married and had a kid. They did get divorced, but I have never seen him happier.
The last guy that I dated, he was about 10+ years older than me. You wouldn't know it if you hung out with us. I was the emotional and mental support for him. Years into the relationship, I found out that he cheated on me with a man and several women. We were on vacation in Milwaukee. I went to a concert with some new friends without him. He said that he was okay with it. Later, I found out that it was him that supplied the ticket so that he could bring his new lover into our hotel room. We split up later that year after I forgive the individual and him.
I had to learn that I needed to find out who I was to bring all of these situations my way. I learned that I needed these men in my life at that time to help me grow up. I enrolled in college after the last relationship. After getting my degree, the last ex contacted me. He wanted to work it out. As I said no and walked away, there was this moment of clarity; this moment of gumption. I went into a stairwell and just screamed with tears of joy. I felt so free.
Have you ever gone through this? Let us know!
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