I Can't Stop, I Won't Stop

You would be surprised what comes across your mind when you are alone. I love being alone, but I don’t mind when a friend comes over. The problem with that is the feeling of the visitor expecting entertainment. I can be very dry sometimes. It is hard to tell what my emotions can be. This is why I have to be very verbal with my feelings. This is why I have no problem telling people how I feel about you. My feelings about you can be like Amazon. There is a large array of feelings available for you. There may be some recommendations for you to choose from. Your attitude and what you use to pay for it, that determines your purchase. Come at me with a good attitude, you will get a good Nicole. Come at me with a bad attitude or displeasing nature, your order will not be so good.

I have learned in these years of life, that I am tired of being slammed and tired. I learned that those moments can lead me to a documentation of depression. I learned that I could go into a dark spiral if I wanted to or needed to. But there is a light at the end of that tunnel. The horrible moments of my life could lead me to help so many other people. I can either hang myself or help someone else. I can either turn into a monster or inspiration. There are battles that I know I cannot win. I am okay with that. I expect that. I know that I cannot get water from an ATM machine.

As someone who is going to school from marriage and family therapy, I want to put my heart into my work. I want my couples or families that I work with to remember that I put my heart into my work. I want them to know that someone does care about them. I have even gone as far as applying therapy techniques into my personal conversations. This is done because I want therapy conversation to become part of my personal vocabulary, so that the language is more fluid. The last thing that I want for my clients is me to sound like a textbook or robot when they want someone more personal and relatable.

That’s why this blog site is important to me. I want to make therapy and its pieces more relatable to everyone. A lot of times, therapy can seem stupid or ridiculous. Sometimes, it can seem like everything is “how does that make you feel”. But it is far more than that. The therapy field requires the user to take personal effects and apply them to the clients. It requires the therapist to also put aside personal or cultural biases and work within a context that is effective for any situation. The therapist never offers advice, it is more of getting the client to find a workable solution for themselves while getting them to understand how every decision can affect everyone around them. I was raised with the idea that every major decision will affect at least 2 people in your life. These decisions will cause either a ripple or revolution in your life.

You just want to talk about it, feel free to send me an email. Message me personally on Instagram. Hit me up on Twitter. I would be glad to talk to you. I can point you to some support groups or counselors. Let's help each other.

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