Supergirl?

Why must people need constant validation? Why do I feel like I need to be Supergirl?

I am a woman who has had the misfortune of constantly having to be put myself in second place. We all have done. I am here to save the world, but who is going to save me for once? I put my life on hold way too many times.

Why do I need the approval of those who do not care about me at all? I live in a society where labels are everything. I live in a society that says you are nothing unless I have Louis Vuitton stuff or Ferragamo something else. I can tell you this: Ferragamo don’t give a F*** about me or you. They do care about your money though. They put so much status and power behind their labels and trick you into thinking that if you have millions of dollars, then you need this. They say that if you want to appear as if you do have that money, then you need their stuff. I can tell you that you don’t. It is rare that you see a celebrity actually purchase this stuff. Come on people, the celebrity is a walking billboard. These companies know that if you see some famous person with their item, then you will be gullible to buy it. For some reason, you think that you are friends with these people or you are like them in some way. This is genius marketing at its finest hour.

Like I said, I admit to helping others in times that I should be helping myself. I went into college right out of high school. My sister started to withdraw from life after entering high school. My parents’ divorce was fresh at this time. She felt that it was her fault. I dropped out of college to help out at home. Then I went to community college, but dropped out again when my parents started getting sick. I finally said no and went back to community college. I got my Associate degree at the age of 29. But it was time to get my Bachelor degree. I got sick of putting myself on hold and went a bit away from home. I found a great college about a few hours away from home. The family could visit whenever they wanted and I was free to visit whenever I wanted. I had freedom at last. I got my Bachelor degree at the age of 31. Although I believe that I was there at the right time, part of me wonders what life would have been like if I went to college and finished a long time ago. After graduation, I went back home to my mother due to finances. I had job offers flying at me, but then my sister had a baby. The next month, my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He died and I shut down for a few weeks. My heart was broken. But I enrolled in grad school after his death. I wanted to be happy. My other sister would have a baby 3 months after I started school, but I refused to drop out. But then my mother was diagnosed with COPD and I had to readjust my life again. She would die this year, and I had to drop out of grad school. I have to take this opportunity to do the right thing and get family things in order before finishing school. Supergirl is back in action.

Being Supergirl and seeking the approval of others is a tough job. We try so hard to win people over, but it doesn’t excuse how we let ourselves go. I think I would retire one day, but it has become a part of my personality. People tell me that my ability and love of helping others is what they like best about me. What is making the most exhausted is what people love the most about me. Is that a bad thing? YES!!! I have learned that I need to let Nicole be Nicole for once. Get what I want and do what I want for Nicole. For Nicole and no one else. If that happens to help others, bonus points for me. This site is part of this process. I am doing this for me. If it helps someone with any issue or discussion, that is awesome. Go ahead and tell me what you think in the discussion bars or send me an email at narrativetherapygirl@gmail.com

SEE YA LATER!!!

Who remembers this song? I have been rocking this song for almost a month now. She was discovered by one of the Backstreet Boys and he is in the video! Too bad she never got the full career.

Krystal Harris - Supergirl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGnBbz4P45g

Why did this song come back to me?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcV4HhTLE3I

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