Letter to my Ex

I have chosen to take this week and write a letter to my ex-boyfriend. I will do this from time to time. I am grateful for those experiences (well, some of them). These will not be in order of when I dated them or how much of an impact.

The first guy-Mike S.

He was so sweet. I have only seriously dated 3 white men in my life. He was the last one. We were the same age, yet we came from different backgrounds. He was raised by his mom and his dad was never a part of his life. He didn't graduate from high school (that I know of). But he was intelligent. He was one of the most caring people I have ever met. He loves people and metal music. He got me into Metallica again. If I get married, "Nothing Else Matters" will play.

We met at work and hit it off immediately. He didn't care that I was going to college, and he encouraged me to continue my education. When I got my degree, I had to let him know that he was one of the reasons that I finished. We only dated for a short period of time, but I learned so much about what I wanted in life from him. Coming from a town that had a large KKK presence, he was always concerned about my safety if I came to visit. We lived in an area that had a large population of active KKK community members and there were times when racism was thrown into our faces. I had never seen such hatred on any scale like this. But he was so brave and loving toward me.

He introduced me to wrestling. I think I had heard of Stone Cold Steve Austin. The first episode that I watched was on February 11, 2002. I remember this because it was his birthday. It was the episode with the Triple H/Stephanie McMahon vow renewal ceremony. For some reason, Mike said that I would like her. He was right. She was my spirit animal. There was something about her that drew me in. That wedding dress though. I will post the link to the wedding at the end of this post. I found out that I can be in love with someone and be in a mature relationship at a young age. We were definitely not ready for marriage, but it was fun to be with him. I loved being in his arms. He gave the best hugs. He was warm, passionate, and always made me laugh.

If you are reading this Mike, I want you to know how much I cared about you. You were one of the best people in my life. I am grateful that you were a part of my life in that time. I needed a man in my life that could truly care for me and my well-being. You defended me and my honor. You faced adversity and struck it down. You got me back writing poetry again. I had lost my way, and you helped me find it. I remember that I wrote a poem about you and it got published in a poetry contest book. I wish I could get it for you. I am glad that I could call you one of my first loves. For that, you are always in my heart. We are not together now, but I would love to keep you in my life. Could we date again? I wouldn't say no...unless you are married or in a relationship (or me for that matter). I still watch wrestling and it became a big part of my life because of you. Thank you for the time, although too short, that we had together. I am so grateful for the experience. I am so happy that I got to be with you. You will always be the vanilla ice cream...vanilla sky....favorite member of the Met Club.

Nicole

You want to see the wedding I was talking about:

Part 1 of the wedding---https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMA0XZLnp_U

Part 2 of the wedding---https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubXazdNLXCY

Songs of the week:

S Club 7- Never Had a Dream Come True https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v14FBwd_r8E

Metallica- Nothing Else Matters https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAGnKpE4NCI

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See ya laters!!!!

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