Hey, can you hear me?

Today, I realized that I can be short with people, especially with children. I realized that I don't care for children's conversations. I realized that I can be cross with children. Sometimes, children don't know when they are interrupting adults. Sometimes, they do not care. They need to get their point across. Today, I was talking to my friends Angie and Cissy. Their children were with us. I was telling them about a phone call I had the night before. But the kids insisted on butting into the conversation. They were asking questions and trying to change the subject into what they wanted to talk about. I was so offended. I told them to back away and "let the grownups talk". I noticed that the kids do this a lot to my friends. I don't know if this is because they don't know better. I don't know if this is because they don't care. They just want to be heard.

When I was a child, I had this fear of speaking to people. I was so afraid of getting into trouble. I was afraid that I wasn't showing my faith. I knew that my training in church said that I should only speak when spoken to. Girls should be quiet and not wreak havoc on the world around them. I knew that it is my job to maintain a sense of purity, chaste, sensibility, and respect for the man that God intended for me. If I speak out of turn, it shows that I am not what I am supposed to be. Loudness with the mouth equaled loudness everywhere else. I grew up with the concept that I should be quiet and let my positive actions speak for themselves. As I got older, I learned that my silence can get me into more trouble. I had to learn how to speak up for myself. Silence isn't always golden. There are more times when I wish I had the opportunity to speak. Sometimes, I feel like people ignore me because they don't think I have anything valuable to say.

I don't socialize much. I don't have many friends. So I don't talk to many people. When I do have something to share, I can now share it with my friends with no problem. My friends will tell you that I have no filter. It is the exact opposite of how I was raised. It is the feminist in me that has taken over my tongue. So when the kids kept cutting off my conversation, it just made me upset. I was mad that I was removed from my own conversation. It seems so stupid to think this way, but I think that this is one of the downsides of not having kids myself. I don't have that emotional connection or need to be with children. I find myself sometimes annoyed by children. How messed up is that?

There are people who feel that if they are not heard, then life is not worth living. They just want someone to listen. This part of attention is essential to their life. While I am not one of these people, I can relate on wanting the connection with another person. It can get lonely sometimes, so having that person to talk to, it can be important. I was bored, so I sent a text to my friend John. He called me and we talked on the phone for four hours. We talked about movies, music, and horrible relationships. I learned that I enjoy talking to people that I can relate to. Children are just not those that I can relate to. I believe that they should have a voice. I just don't relate to the issues that they care about. This may seem harsh because I want to be a marriage and family therapist. I have learned that children can have great ideas and discuss issues that can be important to adults. Adults have to recognize that children have a voice and it should be heard. Children need to realize that sometimes adults need to have their time with other adults without interruption. Just listen to each other. You might be surprised about what you hear.

Songs for the week----

Melanie C. ---The Moment You Believe

https://youtu.be/519yuRHApfY

P!nk (featuring Nate Ruess) -----Just Give Me a Reason

https://youtu.be/OpQFFLBMEPI

Plumb (featuring Dan Haseltine) --- Drifting

https://youtu.be/LpCTnq0ob3k

You have an awesome day!!!

#lifelesson