Change is Hard

Oct 27, 2017
3 min read

Dealing with change can be very difficult. I was talking to a friend of my mom's today. He said that people after a few decades of life will have the hardest time trying to handle change. There are some who don't see change as a problem, yet they have the hardest time changing something about themselves. I would say yes, but to elaborate, I would say that it is hard to change if you don't see change as a necessary thing. If you don't think that you need to change, then why would you? Because your significant other says that you need to change? That is just insane. Let me tell you why with an example.

I was dating this guy and he told me that I needed to lose weight, move out of state, and be more submissive in order to be with him. If I have been an independent plus-size woman in the town that you met me in, and I am happy with this, why would you ask me to change? If I am happy with my life and you know this, then who are you to tell me to change? I told this guy that I am not changing and he said that it needed to be done or he would leave me. I told him where the door was and that I was going to end this for him. If I need to lose weight, I will do it for me. I will do it because a medical professional, not my boyfriend, told me that it would be beneficial for me to do so.

I know that I need to change my eating habits, but I am 35. I have been eating the same way all of my life. My mother would tell you that I used to eat slices of cheese out of the fridge, and eat mashed potatoes for breakfast. If you behave in a certain way for your entire life, it is extremely difficult to just stop doing something. I remember my mother after her divorce from my father. She was married to him for 32 years. She was told by him to walk in front of him at all times. She was not allowed to smoke in public unless he was present, she was not allowed to eat unless he was already eating at family functions. After her divorce, it took a long time for her to get back to being herself again. She was so used to being his wife, she didn't know anything else anywhere. But when she went out with us for a Saturday afternoon shopping adventure, she just broke it down. She was able to smoke while walking down the street. She could sit down and not have to worry about what he was saying.

Deep beneath the cover of another perfect wonder where it's so white as snow. Privately divided by a world so undecided, and there's nowhere to go. Deep beneath the cover of another perfect wonder where it's so white as snow. Running through the field where my tracks will be concealed, and there's nowhere to go. What up, Chili Peppers reference! I feel like sometimes we are trapped in the things that we cannot change or refuse to change. How messed up is that? We have created these images that we want to present to the world. We use it so much that we start to believe it as reality. We start to believe our own lies. We refuse to own up to it, and we are stuck. Change is possible. If people can lose weight in pounds, why not in lies? There are people who are experiencing the same problems as you. There is a sense of universality here. But we have to be the first to impart that information. We have to get ourselves the chance to change the image we present. You can help others and correct emotional experiences if you do. Take responsibility for life, lies, and death of that fake reality.